4 Things To Do Now Before You Have Your Baby

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Dr. Nikki

The big day is coming soon! You’ve finished your delivery classes and read pregnancy books. You’ve been diligent with your doctor appointments and taking your prenatal vitamins. And now that urge within you is starting to stir. You feel the need to get your home and yourself prepared for what’s to come after you give birth.

Most of the focus during pregnancy is on growing a healthy baby and preparing for your delivery day. Much less attention seems to go towards what you do when you bring this new life home. There’s no doubt that the postpartum experience can be quite challenging. You’re tending to a new baby and new routines — all while your body is exhausted and healing.

But a little planning can make a major difference during those first few weeks with your newborn. Here are four ways to help you get ready.

1. PREPARE A BATHROOM CARE KIT

After delivery, you will be sore and wiped-out. If you had a vaginal birth, you might have had a vaginal tear or episiotomy during childbirth. This wound could hurt for a few weeks. Regardless of how you delivered, your body will begin to shed the lining of your uterus. This will result in a bloody discharge, much like having a heavy period.[1,2]

Having a care kit at home will prepare you for the challenges of caring for your body after delivery. Don’t get caught off-guard. Consider keeping a basket of the below items next to the toilet in every bathroom you have.

  • Extra underwear. Save your favorite undies, and go with disposable or throwaway ones while you heal. The hospital will give you mesh underwear — take as many pairs as you can. Then buy a package or two of disposable, dark-colored underwear. “Granny panties”, or high-waisted panties, are great, especially if you had a C-section. Disposable and comfortable are key.

  • Pads. Make sure you stock up on different sizes — from large, overnight maxis to regular-sized pads. Buy a few packages. You’ll be going through quite a few during your early days.

  • Adult wet wipes. You can buy wipes that are flushable and designed to be gentle and soothing.

  • Peri or squirt bottle. Most hospitals will give you one. Consider having an extra for your second bathroom or if you travel. This bottle will seriously become your new best friend in the bathroom. Fill it with warm, soapy water (use a mild soap), and have it on-hand to keep you clean as your perineal area heals.

To make it easier for you, some stores sell postpartum recovery kits already assembled. Click here to check out one on Amazon that even comes with a tote to store on top of your toilet.

2. PLAN TO EASE ACHES AND PAINS

Coming home from the birthing center or hospital can be exciting and overwhelming. Your body has gone through a tremendous ordeal — one that can be painful or uncomfortable. Preparing in advance can help minimize discomfort. You may wish to include some of the noteworthy items below in your pain plan:

  • Padsicles. These are lifesavers that help with pain and reduce swelling. And they’re simple to make.[3] Click here for a DIY guide. Ice packs can also work.

  • Witch hazel. You can buy this in either pad or liquid form. It helps to soothe pain around your genital area.

  • Lidocaine spray. This will help with the discomfort of postpartum hemorrhoids.

  • Sitz bath. Use this to bring comfort to hemorrhoids or perineal tears. A sitz bath will cleanse the perineum and also bring relief to pain or itching in your genital area as you heal.

  • Heating pad. Use this if you feel aches and pains in your breasts.

  • Nipple cream and breast pads. This will help relieve discomfort, regardless of whether or not you breast-feed.

  • Over-the-counter pain relievers. Talk with your health care provider about the best option for you.

  • Stool softeners. Sometimes constipation can occur after delivery. Or there may be a fear hurting the perineum or episiotomy wound.[4] Eating plenty of fiber or taking a stool softener can help. Check with your doctor on what would work best for you.

3. PREPARE YOUR SUPPORT TEAM

In our American culture, it’s difficult sometimes for women to ask for help. Remember to be kind to yourself, especially during these first few weeks. Having a newborn is hard. 

Preparing a support team before delivery can help. Here are a few areas to consider:

  • Meal planning. From meal trains to cooking parties, your friends and family can prepare meals for you. Make sure they’re freezer-friendly, so, on those exhausting days, you can grab one and just reheat it. Aim to have at least one healthy, nutritional meal a day that you can easily pop in the oven or crockpot.

  • A bouncer. Your family and friends are excited about your new baby. But you may be too tired or emotionally drained to entertain. Setting boundaries in advance can help, but what about those spur-of-the-moment requests? Consider asking a special someone to run interference on your behalf until you feel up to hosting.

  • A social media SOS. Maybe you have a last-minute need or just want a friend to sit with you while you cry. Post where you feel comfortable or have some go-to friends in mind for when those moments strike.

  • Postpartum doulas. Postpartum doulas can be true angels! Their main goals are to “mother the mother” and help transition the family during this new time.[5] They provide a wealth of services: breast-feeding support, light housekeeping, running errands, and assisting with your newborn’s care.

4. ATTEND A WORKSHOP

Preparing for life after delivery can feel overwhelming. You know things will be significantly different, but maybe you aren’t sure what all you need to do. Sometimes it helps to have a person to talk to in real life.


SOURCES

1.  (2018, May 11). Postpartum care: After a vaginal delivery - Mayo Clinic. Retrieved February 10, 2020, from https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/labor-and-delivery/in-depth/postpartum-care/art-20047233

2.  (2018, May 11). C-section recovery: What to expect - Mayo Clinic. Retrieved February 10, 2020, from https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/labor-and-delivery/in-depth/c-section-recovery/art-20047310

3.  (2019, December 18). Padsicles: How to Make Them, How To Use Them ... - Healthline. Retrieved February 10, 2020, from https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/padsicles

4.  (2018, May 11). Postpartum care: After a vaginal delivery - Mayo Clinic. Retrieved February 10, 2020, from https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/labor-and-delivery/in-depth/postpartum-care/art-20047233

5.  (n.d.). Postpartum Doula - American Pregnancy Association. Retrieved February 10, 2020, from https://americanpregnancy.org/first-year-of-life/post-partum-doula/